I got one of those forwards recently that I did not delete on sight because it had a title that sounded a tad oxymoronic to me:
“Men-the Real Truth” (need I say more?)
The bottom line of the piece was how men sacrifice tirelessly to care for their women(read mothers, sisters/cousins, girlfriends/wives) and provide the best for them at all costs.
Some extracts from the message are:
“He starts compromising at a very tender age. He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister.”
“…thus he sacrifices full youth for his wife and children without any complain.”
“…yet every mother, wife and boss tries to have control over him.”
“Finally his life ends up by compromising for others’ happiness.”
“Respect every boy/man in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.”
It got me thinking and I must admit there are some guys out there who fit the bill. Unfortunately over time this scenario has changed and I am tempted to replace all the “he’s” with “she’s” because in today’s society, women do way more sacrificing than the men in their lives.
Granted there’s some truth; and as Mr. Ezekiel suggested and I quote:
“You see the truth is that in this era of empowerment n all…men’s roles are really looked down upon. Men themselves are really taken for granted. I cud sing a song but am a man and we are expected to be tough”
I sent it to a few guy pals to feel them out on it and I was surprised.
Rebmann said “…we always see it as a duty rather than a burden.”
Sam on the other hand believes men are macho and shouldn’t wear their hearts on their sleeves. He is also of the opinion that it is not necessary for the women in their lives to pour out their appreciation in buckets, an occasional “thank you” would suffice. I like something Rebmann added “…men appear unappreciated cause most of their efforts are normally viewed as what they ought to do…” This I concur with to an extent and must admit am partially of the school of thought asking why should it be a celebration when men take up their responsibility when it’s basically God-given for them to do?
I’m on the fence because I think my problem lies in:
- The generalization. Some men do not know what sacrifice is, the women in their lives sacrifice so they can be what others see. The mama covers for him by paying bills, supporting his whimsical ideas and raising his “totos” and when he finally comes round well, if ever, she’s just plain tired of the whole charade.
- The misconception. You see God instituted that man shall toil for self and family so just where do we get the idea that it’s going to be easy? The woman shall be the help and man also got the good bit, that he would lead the mama.
Alright with the advent of empowerment, women’s rights have been highlighted but just what is the plight of men? Men don’t speak out about issues so we (maybe wrongfully) assume they have none? Women are the fairer gender and where men have the chest hairs to put forward(pun intended) women may need that extra hand. No I don’t mean affirmative action, I mean bringing to light issues such as domestic violence(against women), rape and FGM for example.
What say you?